Accepting- the love that is not there.

You know when you meet someone, and you think they’re attractive but thats all. Then all of a sudden you start to notice things about them that you hadn’t noticed before and things start to change. You start seeing them different. You start to feel anxious when you don’t hear from them, you want to know what they’re doing and if they’re thinking about you.

At this moment you still don’t know that what you’re developing is a state of desire for this person, passed the friendship. Your phone rings and you run to it and when you see their name on the screen, you heart seems to be trying to escape from your chest, your hands start to sweat and the butterflies in your stomach don’t seem to want to settle. At this point you have to sit down to gain your strength again because all the excitement has drained everything from you. Do you know the feeling? To me this is the best feeling. Knowing that this might be the beginning of something new.

But what happens when these feelings start to develop roots under your feet? You cant move passed it, and you clearly know the other person doesn’t feel the same way about you. How can you pull the roots out and move on?

It’s difficult and more when the other person doesn’t know how you feel about them and even worse, they let you know how they feel about someone else. Lets talk about a shattered heart. This person is cutting you piece by piece without realizing it.

There are two alternatives that you can take. The easy, yet most difficult road where you are honest and let the person know how you feel about them. It can either go horrible or very well. The other person might just say they feel the same way about you and that they’re happy you brought it up. Or if they are your friend and they don’t feel the same way about you, you can ruin a great friendship.

The other alternative is the hard yet easy road. You keep your feelings to yourself and hope or try to get rid of the feelings. This alternative might not ruin your friendship but your feelings for them are still there and that might get in the way.
At this point what should you do? You have to think about the things that could go wrong and the things that could go right. I am a strong believer in cons and pros lists. I try to do one for every situation or decision that I face. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you just have to put your thoughts on paper so that you can see a clear picture of what would/could happen. Before you do any of this, your first and most important action is to pray. Always pray about everything.

God will guide your every step.

If this is the beginning of your fairytale, then believe he will open up the doors that need to be opened. If it’s not the case, then believe he has the right person for you.


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