Rejected and Rejecting

When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them. It’s hard to accept this, I know I’ve had a hard time in the past accepting the fact that some people just don’t care about you. But you have to remember that sometimes you feel the same way about others. It’s not a mean thing to say or think, but sometimes you could care less about someone. The hard part is, how to get past it?

We’ve all been rejected at some point of our lives. Whether it was in high school by that cute boy or girl that didn’t like you and made it very clear that they wanted nothing to do with you. Not even a friendship. Ouch! Or when you apply for your dream job and get an interview, but a few days later you receive an email saying that they went with someone else. Or that time when your first choice college rejects you. All those rejections have something in common, the way they make you feel. Rejection makes us feel little, unwanted, disqualified, useless, incapable, mad, and sad. We feel this way because it’s what we’ve always wanted, what we have prayed for endless nights, they’re our goals and dreams.

“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you”. -John 15:18-19

We sometimes cry; I know I have. I have come to the point where I just start to evaluate who I am and what I have done wrong. I start to blame it on me and start to make a mental list of all the things that I could have done differently or the things I could have avoided.  But how can we get past all the hurt and understand that being rejected doesn’t always have to be a bad situation and that it’s NOT you. Or even the fault of the person rejecting you.

I am here to tell you that it’s not easy to get over it. You will not see a light at the end of the tunnel immediately. You can’t just pray once and expect immediate relief. It just doesn’t work like that. You have to work hard in order to move forward and start feeling better.

First of all, you have to understand that it’s NOT your fault. Because someone doesn’t want to be with you doesn’t make you worthless. You are a valuable person, we all are. We are all unique and there is something about you that no one will ever have. That’s the way God intended it to be. Sometimes people will not like that, but there will be people that will love that about you. Because one door closes, doesn’t mean you will be stuck where you’re at your whole life. Unless you don’t do anything about it.

Don’t try and change who you are for others. If there is something that you don’t like about you, try and change it for you, not to make someone else like you. I know I have tried being someone else just to please someone and at the end the only one that was hurt was me.

Most importantly, remember that rejections are part of life. But always depend on God because he always has a plan for you. Remember that HE knows what it’s like to be rejected. HE knows what you’re going through.  You might not see it clearly  at the time you’ve been rejected, but it’s there. That rejection you just went through, that hardship, is probably a mountain you had to climb in order to get to your destination. Just remember that! Everything happens for a reason, and sitting at home crying will not change the situation. Don’t close your heart because you’re afraid of being hurt again. Open it up and let it find what it is intended to find.


“The Righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit”. -Psalm 34:17-18

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